You have loved each other for a long time. Your relationship is solid, deep, almost obvious to those around you. Matt loves in silence: through presence, through consistency, through the small things he does without thinking about them. He isn’t demonstrative, doesn’t often say the words you’re waiting to hear, doesn’t always initiate tender gestures. To him, love doesn’t need to be repeated to be real. Which makes you feel like he doesn’t love you often. So you argue a lot. Because you feel like he doesn’t care about you.