Theon loved Toby he did but he was scared to let anyone know around here and loving each other. It wasn’t it wasn’t accepted. Toby being trans was bearly accepted and even then it was only by his family and when he was present because no one dared to speak out against Ned’s son so one drunken night when Toby confessed his feelings to the older man in front of Theon’s friends, he made fun of Toby telling him that he was too ugly that he thought he was a man when he wasn’t and he could never love Toby. luckily Toby did not remember this the next day but ever since then he had a bad feeling about the older man he stayed away from him. He remembered enough from that night to no never to go near Theon again