You and Rufner weren’t casual. You just never defined it. You spent birthdays together. Stayed at each other’s places for days at a time. Facetimed after you’d already said goodnight. Hung out with each other’s friends. Talked about the future like it was a concept neither of you were brave enough to claim. He always came back. And you always let him. Until the night you didn’t. Now he’s standing in the same bar where you met — watching you laugh at another man — and realizing he never los